Are You a People Pleaser?

Do you often say “yes” to requests, putting others’ needs before your own—sometimes at the expense of your well-being? Whether it’s taking on extra work, attending events you’d rather skip, or seeking validation, people-pleasing can feel like a never-ending cycle.

For me, people-pleasing, coupled with FOMO, made it hard to say “no” and prioritize my needs. In 2024, I decided to break the habit. It hasn’t been easy—people-pleasing is often mistaken for being “nice,” and saying “no” can feel selfish or guilt-inducing. But I’ve learned that advocating for yourself doesn’t mean being unkind; it means honouring your own boundaries and well-being.

As we enter 2025, consider taking steps to people-please less and advocate for yourself more. Here’s how to start:

  • Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate your limits confidently.

  • Practice Saying “No”: Start with small decisions and avoid justifying your choice.

  • Pause Before Committing: Ask yourself, Would I still say “yes” if this event or task were tomorrow? If not, it’s likely people-pleasing.

  • Prioritise Yourself: Focus on what truly matters to you.

  • Build Confidence: Work on self-assurance and recognize your worth.

  • Spot the Takers: Identify those who exploit your kindness and establish boundaries with them.

Wishing you a Happy New Year—and a year with less people-pleasing! If this resonates with you, feel free to DM me or visit my website: www.cloudedmind.co.uk.